Mutual masturbation is an extremely sexy way to teach your partner all the moves you use on yourself. Read on to find out five hot ways you can bring mutual masturbation into your sex play book.
What would you say if I suggest that one of the most intimate and sexy things you can do with your partner is to not touch them at all? On first glance that sounds like some kind of ploy to do taxes together.
1 – 1 doesn’t equal 0 in the sex world—it can actually equal infinite pleasure.
Masturbation at its core is one of our most primal pleasures. People of all genders enjoy the pleasures and benefits self-love provide. You are your best lover—the safest, the most comforting, and the easiest booty call you could ever have!
And while you may be inclined to hold on to that as a private pleasure, sharing your solo sex with another can be both deeply intimate and highly erotic.
What Makes Mutual Masturbation So Sexy?
Mutual masturbation might seem simple at its core (and it can be!) but there are definitely deeper levels to a type of sex that is all of vulnerable, sexy and educational!
This can get especially tricky for folks in long-term relationships. Emotionally and practically! How do you find the time and space to masturbate—and when you do, should you be holding onto that sex drive for your partner?
Here’s the rub: these distinct concerns are what can make mutual masturbation so sexy!
Open Yourself Up
The foremost thing to consider is your well-being. Opening up to sharing masturbation can actually be a very vulnerable milestone to share with a partner. Because there is so much personal intimacy involved, sharing that intimacy can leave you feeling vulnerable.
Mutual masturbation that becomes a shared intimacy where you and your partner will reach a new level of closeness.
Through mutual masturbation, you can teach your partner all of your own moves that you use on yourself! You can point out (overtly or with subtlety) the specific spots and motions that drive you give you the most pleasure, but that might not be obvious to someone else.
Ready to take your relationship and sex life to the next level? Here are some hot ways you and your partner can bring mutual masturbation into your play book.
Under The Covers
If you’re still feeling a bit shy about touching yourself with someone else, you and your lover can create a sexy little nest under the covers in bed. You’ll be close and warm and able to kiss. The knowledge of what is going on down below—and the rustling of the blankets—can be incredibly titillating while at the same time easing into something new.
Touch, just not of your sexual bits, can add a new level of excitement to mutual masturbation. Laying down with the length of your sides in contact allows you to explore your own body while feeling sexual responses from your partner. As their excitement grows, their body will shift, twitch and shudder—and the skin-to-skin contact can transmit directly to you.
With Sexy Toys
Sex toys, like HUM, have a very practical purpose: sexual pleasure. But they have a secondary appeal as well. Many folks love the voyeur appeal of sex toys and watching someone use one sends a very specific signal to both our brains and our genitals: that person loves sex. This knowledge and sensation is a huge turn-on!
We now live in a global culture which means we are sometimes separated from our partners for lengths of time. Fortunately, telecommunications have advanced significantly and video chats are becoming a regular part of our lives.
For those who are ready to be more adventurous, one of the strongest appeals of mutual masturbation is the super sexy visual. Just imagine sitting across from your lover as you watch their hands roam and focus on their body. For a truly visual experience, the two of you will probably be creating the most physical distance between you.
However, by allowing your partner this visual sight, you will be creating an extremely close intimate bond.
In case you need some musical inspiration, here are the Divinyls singing I Touch Myself