Using a Vibrator: Couples Edition

Posted by Andrew Schroeder on

Using a sex toy doesn’t just have to be a solo escapade. Many couples often bring one into their bedroom activities to heat things up that little bit more. Sometimes, you might worry a little about introducing something like this. Will it make your man feel inadequate? Will he enjoy it? Worry not! Most men say that they are not only happy to bring a vibrator into the bedroom, but they actually enjoy using it on their partner.

Seeing the looks of pleasure on your partners face is always a rewarding experience. Whether you’re doing it with a penis, tongue, finger or a vibrator, the feeling is still the same. So, if you want to bring your partner to some new heights of pleasure with their favourite toy, then go for it! It will be worth the effort.

These toys aren’t just for use on women either. Many women take great enjoyment from using their vibrators on their men. Being able to explore different areas of his body can be a huge turn on, and you’ll love seeing the look on his face just like he does when he uses it on you.

Finding the Sweet Spot

When you first start using a vibrator on your partner, you might have to start by doing a little exploration to find out what they like. If they’ve used the vibrator on themselves, then they might be able to help you with this, guiding you to their favourite areas. Whether or not they do, take some time to explore their body. Listen to your partner, watch their reactions. It should be pretty easy to tell when you hit the right spots. There’s nothing more attractive than being pushed over the edge by someone who’s found a pleasurable spot that you’ve never managed to hit yourself.

Tips for Using a Vibrator on a Woman

Using a vibrator on a woman can be a bit like a buffet, filled with options. If you’re looking for a good place to start, combining a vibrator with oral is a good first step. Using your tongue whilst moving the vibrator around allows you to still be active in the sexual act. This means while you’re exploring her body, your tongue will still be hard at work so there won’t be peaks and troughs in the level of excitement she feels. It also means you’re still doing some of the work yourself, so if you don’t want to rely entirely on the vibrator this works for you too.

The clitoris is the most sensitive area of the woman’s vagina. It has even more nerve endings than the penis, and is usually only around the size of a pea. Having so many sensitive nerves in such a small area makes it a very powerful area to stimulate.

Holding a vibrator to her clitoris during intercourse or other sexual activity can really make her swoon. You need to be careful with this one though, as direct contact with the clitoris can be too much so you’ll probably want to start with one of the lower settings. Contact for a long period of time can also be overwhelming, or even painful in some situations. This part of the vagina is super sensitive, so you might want to save it until she is already fairly close to orgasm to make the most of the stimulation.

Women are able to experience multiple orgasms much easier than men. If you’re planning on continuing past the first orgasm for one or many more, then you’ll probably need to practise your approach. Some women after orgasm become hypersensitive, just like men. These women will usually not be able to handle additional vibrator stimulation following orgasm, so you’ll need to switch over to a more delicate, manual form of stimulation following her orgasm.

Women who are a little less sensitive might be able to handle additional vibrator use after their first orgasms. While they might not want you to turn it off, they’ll probably still feel quite sensitive and tingly after orgasming. It’s a good idea to lower the power of the vibrator for a while, then begin to increase it again as she approaches her second orgasm.

G-Spot stimulation can also be much easier when working together. Some women find it difficult to either find or reach their own G-Spots. When you let your partner control the vibrator though, you can simply guide them to the right location, and then sit back and relax as they drive you wild. You never know, they might be so good at it that your end up squirting!

Tips for Using a Vibrator on Men

While men don’t have access to a vagina, there are still many parts of their body that they’ll love you stimulating. Different vibrators will be more suited to some specific areas, but in general whichever vibrator you already have access to will work perfectly fine. The most important part is exploring and finding the areas he enjoys you stimulating.

The penis is a great place to start, and you might simply add the vibrator to anything you already do for him. Try holding it to your cheek while giving a blowjob, or inside your palm while using your hands. Once he’s got used to the feeling of the vibrator, it might be time to move onto some other parts of the body.

You can tease your man in many of the same ways you might want him to tease you. Running your vibrator up and down his thighs, across his nipples, or even the back of the neck can get him really fired up. Work your way closer and closer to his penis and then pull away at the last second, then when you finally do make contact he’ll hit the roof.

The scrotum is an area which only men have, and while it might not be your first though of places to stimulate it can actually be quite nice. This part of the body tends to be more sensitive for men, so it’s a good idea to turn your vibrator back down and stick with a low setting. Run the vibrator all around the area, and gently stroke his balls with it. Usually this will result in a rock-hard erection that he’ll be begging you to touch.

Penetration

Almost all vibrators can be used for penetration. Some are more effective at it that others, and depending on the size, some are much more comfortable. Whether or not you’ll be using the vibrator to penetrate your partner is a key consideration and will make a massive difference to your experience of using it on them. They will be the only one who knows if they like this or not, so if you don’t know what they’d prefer, be sure to ask before doing anything. Nothing kills the mood faster than something popping in somewhere it wasn’t expected.

Both men and women can enjoy vibrator penetration. For women it tends to be a little more obvious, as that’s what the vagina is designed for. Anal penetration can be enjoyed by you both though. If you are planning on anal penetration, you’ll definitely need some lubrication, as the anus doesn’t produce its own lubricant. Men get an added bonus with this kind of vibrator play, as it will stimulate the prostate gland which can lead to an entirely different kind of orgasm he might never have felt before.

Sex with Vibrators

While much of the focus so far has been on teasing, foreplay and masturbation with your partner, you can quite obviously use a vibrator during sex as well. Some vibrators will be easier to use than other, which is largely down to their size. Smaller vibrators will be easier to manoeuvre and position, as some sexual positions don’t leave you much room for hands, arms and large vibrators. That’s not to say that you can’t use a larger vibrator during sex, you’ll just have a little more trouble finding a comfortable position for it.

Which sex position you use is entirely up to you! They all have different benefits and drawbacks when trying to incorporate a vibrator, and some positions will open up areas that others will not. Think about how you plan to use the vibrator, and try to find a suitable sex position to go along with that.

Multiple Vibrators

There are erogenous zones all over the body. While you can only use a vibrator in one spot at a time, there’s nothing to say you can’t use multiple vibrators. With a combination of vibrators which can be used for penetration, and handheld vibrators, you can potentially stimulate four or five of these areas at the same time. If your partner is up to the challenge and can handle all the stimulation, you can give them a night they’ll never forget by using a selection of vibrators at the same time.

Wireless Vibrators

One of the most fun types of vibrator for you to use on your partner is the remote-controlled vibrator. This doesn’t just have to be used in the bedroom. Your partner can wear the vibrator at any time, and with the remote or controlling phone app you can decide when, and how much stimulation they get. The tension of not knowing when the vibrator is going to kick in can make everything more heightened than normal, and if you tease them by turning it on and off they’ll be begging for a finish. You could even play a game of vibrator chicken, by both wearing one and having the other persons remote!

Whatever kind of vibrator you have, they really don’t have to be a personal toy. Bringing it into the bedroom and involving your partner can completely change the experience, and let you feel things that you didn’t even think were possible. So next time you’re planning a late-night session, whip out the vibrator and see what you think! You won’t regret it.


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