Using a Vibrator: Male Edition

Posted by Anna Bergeron on

Most of the time when vibrators are discussed, men are largely left out in the cold. Unfortunately, vibrators are viewed mainly as a woman’s sex toy. This couldn’t be further from the truth though. While they lack the vagina which so many vibrators call home, men can still enjoy all kinds of sensations from vibrator use. Some are even specifically designed for male stimulation, targeting specific parts of the male body just like female vibrators do.

Wielding the Vibrator

Of course, men are often given the ceremonial job of wielding the pleasure sword. There’s nothing wrong with this of course, and many studies find that men generally enjoy using vibrators on their partners. Some men struggle with this though, as certain social stigmas can make them feel inadequate or less masculine if they have to resort to a vibrator to please their ladies. In this situation, all you can do is try to reassure them. They don’t run hundreds of miles instead of using a car, so why should it be any different for a vibrator. Once they see the pleasure they control with their fingertips in action, they’ll probably quickly forget any perceptions they had before hand and simply enjoy making you feel great.

Having the Vibrator Used on Them

While most men are perfectly happy using the vibrator on their partner, a surprisingly lower amount will be willing to have it used on them. It’s slightly strange though, as even something as simple as a vibrator held to the penis feels, in the words of some men, “mind-blowing”.

Men are typically offered much less options for sexual play, but vibrators are a great way to start breaking out of the proverbial box. You can use a vibrator in many ways, and there are more areas to use them than just the penis. For some beginners, simply using the vibrator on some of your erogenous zones can be a good place to start. Teasing nipples, thighs, or the lower back can make you much more aroused and most men will go for it a lot more in the bedroom when they’re more turned on.

When you’re feeling a little more comfortable with vibrator use, moving onto the genitals can bring you some unique feelings. Most men will start with the penis, as that’s the area which usually brings them the most pleasure. Different parts of the penis will produce different sensations though, so you can experiment with the different areas and see what you enjoy the most. If you need a little inspiration, check out a guide to the anatomy of your penis and what each part does.

The penis shouldn’t be the only area you explore though. While many men are entirely penis focused, and some even think that this is the only area of the body that can bring you to orgasm, they couldn’t be more wrong. There are many areas of the male body, which when stimulated, can not only bring you to an orgasm you know, but can let you experience an entirely new kind of orgasm.

One area in particular that all men should explore with their vibrators at least once is the prostate. This hidden gem is a part of the body only found in males. It’s a small gland found between the bladder and penis which when stimulated can lead to a completely different kind of orgasm. When you get the hang of stimulating the prostate you might even be able to bring yourself to multiple orgasms. That’s right, just like women, men are capable of multiple orgasms too.

Unfortunately, the location of the prostate makes it a little hard to stimulate. Vibrators are the perfect tool for the job though. The easiest way to reach the male prostate is through the anus. While you can stimulate it with your fingers, it can be tough to bend them in such a way that you can effectively stimulate the prostate.

Luckily, there are some vibrators specifically designed to hit this sweet spot. They have a slight curve so that once inserted, they rest against the prostate. Then it’s a simple matter of turning on the vibration, and relaxing. Prostate stimulation is a completely different feeling than any other kind of sexual activity. You might find it a little overwhelming at first, so starting on the lowest setting is usually a good idea.

Another part of prostate play that might surprise you, is that the closer you get towards orgasm, the more you’ll need to urinate. This is because of the prostates role in the urinary system, functioning as somewhat of a valve so that you can’t wee while having sex. As you get close to a prostatic orgasm, the prostate fills with fluid and prepares to expel it, much like ejaculation. Unfortunately, this feels very much like you’re going to wee yourself. The best thing to do is to use the toilet before you start and then there is almost no chance that you will actually wee.

If you aren’t quite ready to go putting vibrators inside your anus, you can still stimulate the prostate externally. The perineum is the part of the body you need to aim for here. This is the small section of skin between the scrotum and the anus. It connects to the prostate through some muscle and skin, so if you hold your vibrator to your perineum then you’ll be indirectly stimulating it. You might need to press quite hard to feel it properly, and it is quite far inside your body.

Other areas you might want to try stimulating are the scrotum, anus (it doesn’t have to go inside!), and testicles. Some people will like different parts of the body more than others so you’re going to have to experiment to see what works for you.

General Male Vibrator Tips

While most vibrator use is relatively simple, there are a few areas which men might need to pay a bit more attention to. These aren’t rules that you must follow as such, but just general things to be aware of. Knowing your own body is key in almost any type of sexual play, and you’ll quickly be able to tell which of these apply to you and adjust your vibrator accordingly for the best experience possible.

Typically, when a man masturbates, they’ll tend to use a lot of force and friction. Much of the time a tight grip will feel a lot better than a loose one, and faster and harder movements bring an orgasm on much faster. When you start using a vibrator it might even feel a little underwhelming. The vibrator is a much more delicate tool, providing a constant stimulation that builds into a greater feeling as time passes, rather than instantly lighting up the areas. If you are someone who is a little rougher with their penis, you might want to pick up a vibrator with some stronger settings to more closely resemble the firm feelings you’re used to.

While it’s perfectly fine to be fairly rough and jerky with penis stimulation, a vibrator tends to provide much more focused and targeted stimulation. Certain parts of the penis, such as the head or glans, may be a lot more sensitive than other areas. When stimulating these, you’ll probably want to be a little more gentle and careful to avoid causing any damage or pain.

As men lack a vagina, the only option for penetration and internal vibrator use falls to the anus. If you’re planning to put your vibrator inside your anus at all, be sure to have some lubricant ready. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina, so inserting anything dry is going to be very painful and probably put you off trying again for a while.

Which Vibrator Should a Man Choose?

Although any kind of vibrator is just as suitable for a man as it is a woman, there are some which will be much more useful. As always, it depends on your personal preferences and what exactly you plan to do with it. The most important thing is to enjoy yourself and be comfortable with whatever you use, so if there is a specific device you want to try then go for it! If you aren’t really sure though, you might want to try one of these devices to get a feel for things.

Vibrating Cock Rings: These are probably the most obvious choice of a “man’s vibrator”. After all, they are designed to be worn on the penis, and women don’t have those! If you’re looking to use your vibrator a lot during sex then these can be great, as they require no extra work and can give a little buzz to both partners. They can be used in solo stimulation, but they tend to be a bit weaker than other types of vibrator and don’t leave you a lot of flexibility other than doing your usual thing while wearing them.

Bullet Vibrators: The jack-of-all-trades vibrator. A bullet is always a solid choice whatever you’re planning to do with it. The small size makes it easy to use and get into all kinds of small and delicate areas. It can be great for penile stimulation, as you can focus the very tip of the device on very specific parts of the penis to bring yourself to orgasm. The only real downfall of the bullet comes in anal play, as it doesn’t have a base and usually won’t have any remote or cords to keep hold of so it can easily be lost in the anus.

Prostate Massagers: Prostate Massagers are the cream of the crop for a man’s vibrator. Not only are they suitable to be used on any part of the body you might want to try a vibrator on, these devices also work great for anal penetration. The curved design lets them perfectly stimulate the prostate and they should come with a flared base to stop the anus from eating them. I’d recommend this as the one to go for if you aren’t sure. You don’t have to use it for penetration, but if you ever fancy it, the options there.

Other Vibrators: Of course, any vibrator can be just as good for men as it can for women. If you enjoy penetration then something like a rabbit vibrator can fill you up and also give you some extra sensations. If you fancy some public play then a remote-controlled vibrator can be great. Even egg vibrators can feel amazing if you know which spots to hit with them. It all comes down to what you want to do with your vibrator.

It doesn’t matter who you are, where you’re from, or even what your sexual orientation is. Vibrators can be just as fun and stimulating for a man as they can be for a woman. The only thing stopping you is yourself! So, get out there and give one a go. You might find something amazing, and even if it’s not for you, at least you’ll know you aren’t missing out!


← Older Post Newer Post →