BDSM Collar

Submissive Collars

Bondage play is a perfect way to refresh and spice up your erotic activities. The best way to set your foot in this kinky scene is to try out some adult toys and role-playing. And since collaring is an essential part of the bondage and role-playing culture, you should give it a go.

Collars and BDSM

A collar is very important for kinky couples and bears special meaning for their partnership. It represents the symbol of devotion, effort, and loyalty. Putting it on and off should not be taken lightly because it's not just a simple necklace.

Wearing a slave collar means that you are marked as a submissive in the BDSM relationship. So, when the dominant partner gives you one, you become their slave. Once you are collared, you must serve and obey your dom. Your only task is to listen and keep them pleased.

In some dom-sub scenarios, the slave must do something to earn their submissive neck attire. The process of gaining one is different for each couple. Sometimes, doms want to reward their partner for being great subs. In other cases, it can take years of patience and commitment to become worthy of wearing this type of necklace.

For some bondage couples, giving and receiving a collar is as significant as being given an engagement ring. They believe that it's is a symbol of eternal devotion. So, they officiate their partnership by holding collaring ceremonies. Since this kinky ritual emulates the wedding ceremony, some couples invite their friends or host a party for this occasion.

However, there isn’t a strict guideline on how a collaring ceremony should be held nor planned. The partners are free to set the tone and mood of the event. Also, they can limit their guest list to members of their community, or it can be just a private event for the couple.

Anyway, some people hate giving this heteronormative meaning to the collaring ceremony. They just think of it as a beautiful way to honor devotion and commitment.

Different Kinds of Collars

Whether you are new to the dom-sub game or a seasoned part of the scene, there are a plethora of collars on offer in the market. Therefore, you can pick and choose until you find the one that would be perfect for subjecting your sub.

But, before you choose the type suitable for your bottom, you need to think about what would collaring your significant one means for you, them, and your partnership.

So Many Options

A bondage accessory around someone’s neck means that the bottom is in a relationship with a dom, and is not available to others. Also, some kinds of these accessories are worn to improve subs posture while other kinds can be used in role-playing.

If you notice that a sub is wearing a collar with a lock, you should know that their dom has a key. This type of collar symbolizes a transfer of power from the submissive to the master holding the key.

Also, some bottoms do not wear their chokers all the time. Most people opt for rocking their submissive neck attire at home or kink events. This type of necklace is a common fashion accessory for women. Unfortunately, men cannot get away unnoticed while wearing one.

Some members of the bondage community use play collars. They come out on occasion when it is time to spice up the adult play. Usually, they entail the usage of leashes and leads.

If you are testing if your partner is fit to become your sub, you should definitely use a consideration collar. That is the best way to decide if you want to get serious with your potential sub.

When the trial period is over, most of the dominant partners offer their bottoms a training collar to teach them the future dynamics of the dom-sub play. After this, the subs can work towards getting a permanent or protection one.

Materials

Slave chokers come in different shapes, sizes, and materials. Some kinksters enjoy wearing those made of soft materials, like cotton, lace, eco, or genuine leather. While some enjoy wearing steel ones.

Submissive neck attire can come with locks, and the dom is the key holder. Furthermore, some hardcore couples choose steel chokers without a lock that can be taken off only by cutting the steel.

Please note that the lockable and shock steel chokers are not recommended for newbies. If you are new, maybe you should start with some lighter, vanilla types, that is, something soft and manageable.

Anyhow, some couples that have 24/7 dom-sub relationships, choose bedazzled collars that resemble ordinary pieces of jewelry at first glance. On the other hand, some couples find it arousing to switch up the roles. In that case, joint, leather collaring is also an option. In this scenario, the couples honor mutual devotion and appreciation of their special bond.

How to Buy a Perfect Collar?

Since necks are sensitive and vulnerable parts of our bodies, you should carefully consider the type of necklace you will wear. Here are the criteria you should take into account when you go shopping for this bondage neck attire:

  • Choose the thickness of it. Thinner ones made of cotton or lace are more comfortable.
  • Choose an O-ring or D-ring type if you plan to attach a leash to it, but make sure it does not irritate your skin.
  • Find the fastener that suits you best.
  • Find one that fits your neck. These bondage neck attires are made to fit everyone, but consider buying the custom-made one.

Styles

If you are looking to include slave collars to spice up your erotic activities, we have good news. There are many styles that you can buy and enjoy on the market.

After you decide which partner is the dom and which one is the sub, you can ponder the design of the necklace that will work for you and your adult play. The design is a matter of individual choice. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable while wearing one and that it fits you like a glove.

We give you the ultimate list of different styles of bondage chokers:

  • Dog collars are the most popular ones. Usually made of leather adorned with clasps, spikes, or metal loops, these are classics in the bondage community.
  • Toy hybrids. Some slave chokers come paired with other adult toys. So, you can find a collar with O-ring or ball gag, or some form of restraints.
  • Eternity collars got their name because you cannot see a clasp or attachment on them. So, they look like a silver ring around your neck. These are useful when you want to keep your kinky persona a secret. Everyone is going to think that eternity collars are a neat piece of jewelry.
  • “Collar” collars look like you cut off the collar of the shirt and put a ring or a leash on it.
  • Some jewelry resembles kinky neck attires. Many people opt for wearing ordinary ones to avoid unwanted attention.

BDSM Collar Meanings

There is an endless list of interpretations of what a collar should signify. While some kinky partners think of it as a fun accessory they can use in an erotic play, others consider them as significant as wedding rings.

This everlasting dispute aside, a collar, in essence, symbolizes different levels of training, devotion, and submission in dom-sub relationships.

If you are new to the kinky scene, you should know that people wearing collars are either marked as the submissives in the relationship or are already owned by dominants. So, please never try to get your way with a collared sub. This unthoughtful gesture might be considered a serious breach of the so-called collar etiquette in the community. The best way to initiate contact with a collared sub is to ask their dom for permission.

Consideration Collar

Consideration collar is probably the first one any potential sub can get. Also, if you are setting foot in the dom-sub scene, and a potential dom honors you with this collar, it does not mean that you have instantly become their sub. Please note that you are just placed under consideration to be their slave or bottom. Once you and your master decide to take your partnership to the next level, you will receive a training collar. In case things do not work out, your dom can simply remove the consideration collar from your neck and set you free. Then, you can try finding a master who is cut out for you.

Please beware that a locking buck shouldn’t be used at this level of partnering in the BDSM play. Go for a simple-designed slave choker to put your potential fellow kinkster to the test.

Training Collar

Most of the BDSM partners shift to the training collar afterward. It helps them determine that they are the right fit for each other. Some couples do not do consideration collars and use training ones right off the bat. So, there is no rule in this practice. You can just follow your needs and wishes.

Adult training chokers are usually worn by slaves or bottoms trained to be submissives. These accessories can help beginners understand their slavelike position in the BDSM game. The collared partner is to subject to and obey their master’s wishes and commands. The master or the keyholder can humiliate, objectify, and show ownership over their bottoms as they please. Once the dom feels like the training period should end, and the slave fulfills all of their requirements, they can present them with a new type of collar. The next BDSM collar should symbolize the progress of the dom and sub's partnership.

Permanent Collar

A permanent collar means that you are in the dom-sub partnership for good. Many couples take permanent or ceremonial collaring very seriously. These can come with more intricate locking mechanisms. Masters can decide if, when, and where the subs can remove the permanent collar. Some partners may agree that it can be taken off for safety, privacy, or other reasons. But, the act of collar removal usually symbolizes the fact that your dom-sub partnership has come to an end.

It is important to emphasize that you should discuss the meaning and usage of a permanent collar with your partner. Find out how your partner feels about being the wearer and what this honor entails and means to them.

Protection Collar

Seeing a person wearing a BDSM collar should be a clear signal that this sub already belongs to a dom or a master. Approaching a collared person behind the back of their dom is considered disrespectful and a breach of collar etiquette.

The main difference between a slave, bottom, or sub wearing a protection collar and the one wearing a training or consideration collar is that it does not entail an equal level of responsibility. Some people wear the former to protect themselves from single kinksters or doms. Mentors often recommend beginners to wear these to safe proof their first encounters.

On another note, some polyamorous partners wear protection collars to point out their relationship with others.

DAY COLLAR

Day collar resembles a simple piece of jewelry. They serve as a fancy reminder of who is the dom and sub in your relationship. A day collar normally looks like a vanilla type choker made of leather or PVC. It is great if you do not want to attract the unwanted attention of nosy people.

You do not have to flash your D-S relationship with kinky accessories. You and your partner must know the true meaning and value of the day collar you use. It symbolizes your kinky union, and you can hide it away from curious eyes. Similarly, some partners chose an even more discreet type of day collar. That is, they wear it discreetly on their wrists or ankles.

Play Collar

Play collars are very popular in the dom-sub scene. Many kinksters wear them while role-playing a sexy scene with their partner, or they use them as a hot accessory when hitting the club or a kink party.

Anyhow, you can use play collars only occasionally. Most people use them to prepare for their sexual games and get themselves in the mood for a BDSM experience. Once your master puts a play collar around your neck, you can mentally prepare for what’s to come.

On another note, some couples use play collars to emphasize their power-exchange relationship.

Play collars usually do not have a special meaning. They can come as dog, leather, or ribbon type ones.

You Might Also Be Interested In:

Collaring Yourself: You Don’t Need a Partner to Have a Collar!

You’re going to have to buckle up (or collar up, whatever) for this ride. It’s okay to feel a little insecure about making important decisions. We’re here to relieve you of all your anxie...

Read More

Collaring Ceremonies

If you are into BDSM, you may regard a classic wedding ceremony as too vanilla. However, you may be vanilla and still want to declare your love and devotion to your partner in a unique way.

Read More

BDSM Collar: The Basics

A collar is among the most widespread BDSM supplies, and they are the quintessential symbol of submission and dominance. You can use them for all sorts of kinky play, dirty fetishes, and even non-...

Read More

Collar Fetishes and Animal Roleplay

A collar can form an important part of a pet play relationship. Not only do they help complete the look, they can also have a much deeper meaning.

Read More

Is BDSM Against My Religion?

Sexual intercourse has always been somewhat of a taboo topic in religious circles. Therefore, it comes as no surprise that one may feel conflicted about it. The fact that it is usually whispered a...

Read More

How Gorean Subculture Influenced BDSM

The world of alternative subcultures and lifestyles is more complex than it seems. Here’s how the controversial book series of Gor made an impact on today’s kinky play.

Read More

Flagging: The Colors of BDSM

There is a chance that you heard about the term flagging, and you might have noticed people wearing bandanas in their pockets. If you don’t know anything about this, you might be surprise...

Read More

What Does BDSM Mean?

The first piece of advice for newcomers — don’t believe everything you hear about kinky play. Even the people who make up this community often argue about what “the real thing” is, what is ethical...

Read More

Safewords and More: Staying Safe During BDSM Play!

The BDSM scene has blown up in recent years, with so many people engaging in these type of sexual activities and even more considering adding these practices to spice up their sex life.

Read More